245: Our Authenticity Depends on Our Values, Not Our Comfort Zones
Throughout our lives we learn many lessons about ourselves and others, how we move on and grow from these lessons is how we become better versions of ourselves even if at the time it seems painful. By sharing what we’ve learned and our interests in a constructive and compassionate way, without sounding condescending or judgmental we can achieve our best selves.
Our Authenticity Depends on Our Values, Not Our Comfort Zones
Throughout our lives we learn many lessons about ourselves and others, how we move on and grow from these lessons is how we become better versions of ourselves even if at the time it seems painful. By sharing what we’ve learned and our interests in a constructive and compassionate way, without sounding condescending or judgmental we can achieve our best selves.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Ben Albert talk about the importance of life lessons and sharing our interests with others in a way that doesn’t sound conceited, as well as balancing our work and life in a healthy way, and through doing so learn how to reflect on ourselves in order to benefit others and ourselves by being empathetic and vulnerable.
Highlights
Being conscious of how you speak and rewording things that can seem negative.
Being proud of being your whole self
There is continuity in steps that feel disconnected
Work and life are parts of the same thing, alignment of the two is essential for a healthy life
Quotes
“To me it doesn’t matter who gets the trophy, so long as the solution is found.” - Ben Albert
“ ‘Should’ doesn’t demonstrate care, it demonstrates judgment.” Sarah Elkins
About Ben Albert
Ben is the owner of Balbert Marketing LLC. He is also the curator of The “Real Business Connections Network,” where he hosts 5 podcasts, “Rochester Business Connections,” “Learn Speak Teach,” “Ben’s Bites,” “Five Minute Fridays,” and “Real Hits.” Once an underdog, now a successful entrepreneur, Ben is passionate about helping other underdogs achieve their dreams.
When Covid hit, Ben was furloughed from work. He found himself down and out, staring at an empty handle of Jim Beam whiskey. He was unemployed, depressed, and felt unworthy.
Hesitantly, he opened his Macbook and started reaching out to strangers on Linkedin. This spearheaded his entrepreneurial journey.
The rest is history.
Now Ben hosts a network of 5 podcasts called “Real Business Connections,” runs a massively successful marketing firm, Balbert Marketing, and has replaced his established sales income in just over a year. Ben found his way.
Once an underdog, now a successful entrepreneur, Ben is passionate about helping other underdogs find their way and achieve their dreams.
Ben is on a mission to move the needle on one million careers, one conversation at a time.
You can contact Ben via his Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and at Balbert Marketing! Or schedule a consultation with him Here! You can also listen to his podcast Real Business Connections on Apple or Spotify!
About Sarah Elkins
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
242: The Stories We Start Are Not Always The Stories We Complete
How does everything we’ve done and gone through lead us to who we are today?
Join in as Sarah Elkins and the very talented, Claudia Noriega-Bernstein engage in a conversation about the power of stories within our family dynamics, our self-reflection in our own lives, and the effectiveness of coaching.
Featuring Claudia Noriega-Bernstein
How does everything we’ve done and gone through lead us to who we are today?
Join in as Sarah Elkins and the very talented, Claudia Noriega-Bernstein engage in a conversation about the power of stories within our family dynamics, our self-reflection in our own lives, and the effectiveness of coaching.
Check it out today!
“We often times try to fit into what we think everybody else wants from us, or what everyone else thinks we should do.” -Claudia Noriega-Bernstein
Discovering Clarity One Bite at a Time course is now available!
*podcast show notes contributed by Tracy Ackeret
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About Claudia Noriega-Bernstein:
Claudia is an artist, writer, TV director, philanthropist, abundance coach, mentor, mother, and wife. During her career as a journalist, she has worked for magazines and television in South America and the US, touching subjects from parenting, forgiveness, and growth to political issues. "Helping others achieve self-confidence, good relationships, their life purpose and becoming authentic leaders, brings so much joy to my life; especially when I help them stand in their own power and have clarity about who they are and where they want to be, so they can ultimately become the best version of themselves." She has dedicated the last twelve years of her life to empowering people, especially children, and women. As a life/abundance coach, she has helped people from different backgrounds to discover and implement the full potential of their own.
Check out Claudia’s Website, Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.
ABOUT SARAH:
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
241: Finding Balance: Is Your Identity Tied to Your Job?
Is your identity tied to your job? Listen in as Sarah Elkins is joined by the Director of Quetico Career and Leadership Coaching, Jeff Ikler, in a riveting discussion about internal and external identities and relevance. Jeff also shares his personal journey and the revolving identification around work life.
Featuring Jeff Ikler
Is your identity tied to your job? Listen in as Sarah Elkins is joined by the Director of Quetico Career and Leadership Coaching, Jeff Ikler, in a riveting discussion about internal and external identities and relevance. Jeff also shares his personal journey and the revolving identification around work life.
Check it out today!
“My identity has always revolvedaround work.” -Jeff Ikler
Discovering Clarity One Bite at a Time course is now available!
*podcast show notes contributed by Tracy Ackeret
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About Jeff Ikler:
Jeff Ikler is Director of Quetico Career and Leadership Coaching, a firm dedicated to helping individuals overcome career issues and develop sustained changes in their leadership practices and organizations. He received his certificate in coaching from the Coach Training Institute. He is a certified innovation facilitator using the SIT (Systematic Inventive Thinking) process. Jeff holds a Master’s in the Teaching of History along with a Bachelor’s in History from the University of Illinois. He taught high school history in Maywood and Batavia, Illinois, for seven years. He is a former Executive Vice President at Pearson Learning where he directed the development of text- and technology-based products for all disciplines. Jeff is a co-author of Shifting: How School Leaders Can Create a Culture of Change. He is the host the “Getting Unstuck – Cultivating Curiosity” podcast. Supporting the agency of others is the river that has run through his entire career.
Check out Jeff’s Website and Blog.
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ABOUT SARAH:
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Episode 104 Revisited: Self-Reflection for Uncovering Satisfaction
For the past few episodes of Your Stories Don’t Define You, we’ve focused on a theme of self-reflection as a tool for inspiring leadership and finding greater satisfaction at work and at home. Episode 104, published in December 2019 with Rajkumari Neogy is a perfect addition to the theme, so we thought we’d bring it back for another look. Check it out today!
For the past few episodes of Your Stories Don’t Define You, we’ve focused on a theme of self-reflection as a tool for inspiring leadership and finding greater satisfaction at work and at home. Episode 104, published in December 2019 with Rajkumari Neogy is a perfect addition to the theme, so we thought we’d bring it back for another look. Check it out today!
During our conversation about resilience and the impact of genetics on trauma, Rajkumari mentioned two scientists well-regarded in the field of epigenetics, Rachel Yehuda and Moshe Szyf.
From an interview with Dr. Yehuda: “Rachel Yehuda is a pioneer in understanding how the effects of stress and trauma can transmit biologically, beyond cataclysmic events, to the next generation.”
Also mentioned was a book by Sarah Peyton, Your Resonant Self, which you can find here.
“Based on our environment, based on the behavior that we experience both to ourselves and others, it directly impacts how our genes express themselves.” -Rajkumari Neogy
Discovering Clarity One Bite at a Time course is now available!
*podcast show notes contributed by Tracy Ackeret
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About Rajkumari Neogy:
‘Rajkumari Neogy, MA has spent 25 years at the intersection of technology and culture.
She is the creator of the epigenetic coaching framework and the author of The WIT FACTOR: Shifting the Workplace by Becoming Your Optimal Self.
She sits quite comfortably at the intersections of Interpersonal Neurobiology, Culture, Technology, and Empathic Language for Business.
A rare blend of techno-babble and touchy-feely invites her keen insights to transform individuals and organizations organically.’
Check out Rajkumari’s Website, LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube.
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ABOUT SARAH:
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
240: How Do We Find Relevance in Life? What Happens When We Don't?
Finding Meaning in YOUR Life
Have you thought about what kind of person you are right now vs. who you were, or who you want to be in the future? Join in with Sarah Elkins as she discusses the journey of finding relevance in YOUR life and how stories can have a lasting contribution.
In this episode, Sarah references a video about the movie Spirited Away. If you’re curious, watch that video below.
Discovering Clarity One Bite at a Time course is now available!
“Maybe it feels a little morbid to think like this, and maybe, just maybe, by taking the time and making this effort at finding clarity, you’ll make adjustments to how you spend your time, the energy you put into relationships, and avoid future regret.” - Sarah Elkins
*podcast show notes contributed by Tracy Ackeret
ABOUT SARAH:
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
239: Stories of Relationships: Family, Feelings, & Baggage
How Do Our Relationships Frame Our Psyches? Ft. Traci Ruble
How do relationships with our siblings and significant others impact our lives? What stories play a role in framing our personality? Listen in as Sarah Elkins and licensed therapist, Traci Ruble, discuss the compelling stories of our most important relationships. Check it out today!
Discovering Clarity One Bite at a Time course is now available!
“Use all these stories, lessons, and mistakes I’ve made in my Sidewalk Talks… It all comes down to how we feel.” - Traci Ruble
*podcast show notes contributed by Tracy Ackeret
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ABOUT TRACI RUBLE:
“I am a candid, clever, licensed California therapist living and working from Heidelberg, Germany. I am a no-BS couples therapy veteran. For 18 years I have been helping couples who have failed with multiple couples therapists before me to get some new growth points. I also listen on public sidewalks as a practice, to strangers, around the world.”
Check out Traci’s Website, Sidewalk Talk, LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook.
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ABOUT SARAH:
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
238: Belonging is a Critical Part of Identity & Purpose
How Do You Belong to Yourself and to Others While Building Your Own Identity? With Paul Haury
Listen in as Sarah Elkins is joined by Paul Haury in an engaging conversation about the journey in self-belonging and Paul's story. Check it out today!
Discovering Clarity One Bite at a Time course is now available!
“Every single one of us is born without self belonging…somewhere along the way our self belonging forms in that space” - Paul Haury
*podcast show notes contributed by Tracy Ackeret
Mentioned:
Brown bottle flu reference.
Belonging by Owen Eastwood.
Brain Rules by John Medina.
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About Paul Haury:
“I guide people to experience belonging, in self-belonging, in their own brilliance, and within their company tribes, to really live & perform better than they ever imagined. In my most recent endeavors, I've served as VP of people & culture and as a professional coach, specializing in belonging and optimal performance for individuals and OrgDev. I believe we perform at our highest when we belong, and believe in shared purpose together. There, we simply fear less and aspire more.”
Check out Paul’s LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram.
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ABOUT SARAH:
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.