Episode 136: An Evolving Caveman: Self Reflection and Anger Management
Dr. John Schinnerer almost gave his podcast the title The Reluctant Podcaster. Similar to my own journey, starting a podcast wasn't at all on his radar. It was a vivid vision at a retreat that included workshops with Dan Millman (author of The Way of the Peaceful Warrior), spa massages, and a drum circle.
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Stories of Reaching the Emotional Connections Necessary for Happiness
Dr. John Schinnerer almost gave his podcast the title The Reluctant Podcaster. Similar to my own journey, starting a podcast wasn't at all on his radar. It was a vivid vision at a retreat that included workshops with Dan Millman (author of The Way of the Peaceful Warrior), spa massages, and a drum circle.
So much of this conversation comes back to me as I consider the "ah ha" moments throughout. My favorite? The Bradley Whitford quote about receiving feedback or criticism:
I go through three phases when I hear feedback or criticism,
Fuck you.
I suck.
Wait... what?
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John mentioned the availability of a replay of the Surviving to Thriving event in May, 2020, visit this site.
Be sure to reach out to connect with John via LinkedIn, follow him on Twitter, visit his websites for Anger Management, Guide to Self - executive coaching, and Divorce Support for Men, and check out his terrific podcast, The Evolved Caveman.
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Sarah Elkins delights in guiding individuals and teams to improve communication, using storytelling as the foundation of her work. She is a Gallup certified Strengths coach and uses that tool to coach her clients to improve their communication in all relationships, and to find more satisfaction at work and at home.
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Episode 79: Some of Your Stories are Totally False
"Just be happy! It's a beautiful day!"
Those words spoken by a family member were completely lost on a teenaged Courtney Ackerman facing depression and anxiety. Not only were they lost, they caused some damage to the relationship.
Depression wasn't just an illness for Courtney, it was also a source of curiosity.
Cognitive Distortions' Role in Your Internal Messages
"Just be happy! It's a beautiful day!"
Those words spoken by a family member were completely lost on a teenaged Courtney Ackerman facing depression and anxiety. Not only were they lost, they caused some damage to the relationship.
Depression wasn't just an illness for Courtney, it was also a source of curiosity.
Not many people going through something like this make the connection between what they're going through, and an opportunity for learning and growth, especially at the time of the struggle. That's part of what makes Courtney unique, among her other talents and varied interests.
Our conversation spanned decades, from that first experience with depression, to her recent “ah ha” moments in her career.
We spoke a lot about 2 of the 11-15 known cognitive distortions, Over Generalization, and Black & White Thinking. When we over generalize, we decide that one thing that happened is meaningful across our entire experience of life. For instance, Courtney was an A student all through elementary and middle school, and then failed a calculus exam. She decided in that moment that she just wasn’t very smart. That’s over generalizing - seeing her one experience in failing an exam and deciding she wasn’t smart, no matter how much evidence there was to the contrary.
With black & white thinking, which can lead to over generalizing, we cannot see a gray area in something specific, like when we decide a person is either good or evil, based on one incident. It’s an either/or way of thinking that, no matter how much evidence we have that there’s something in between, we cannot acknowledge that middle ground.
Connect with Courtney on LinkedIn, listen to her episode on the outstanding podcast “Getting Unstuck”, read one of her articles on cognitive distortions, and order her books on the Simon & Schuster website.