268 How Our Authenticity And Identity Shift Over Time
Have you ever made a decision that conflicted with beliefs you once had? It’s always a troubling feeling when change comes around, we question ourselves, our intelligence, our society, our parents, and everything that shaped us into who we are. Which is why it is so important to not just ourselves but to other people in our lives to remain fluid and open minded.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Asha Dahya discuss how our authenticity is always changing and evolving with us, and how it is incredibly important to embrace this portion of our humanity and learn to grow and accept ourselves and our own changes.
268 How Our Authenticity And Identity Shifts Over Time
Have you ever made a decision that conflicted with beliefs you once had? It’s always a troubling feeling when change comes around, we question ourselves, our intelligence, our society, our parents, and everything that shaped us into who we are. Which is why it is so important to not just ourselves but to other people in our lives to remain fluid and open minded.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Asha Dahya discuss how our authenticity is always changing and evolving with us, and how it is incredibly important to embrace this portion of our humanity and learn to grow and accept ourselves and our own changes.
Highlights
Authenticity is about being comfortable in your skin and values regardless of how uncomfortable the situation you’re in is.
Finding what keeps you passionate. Finding your what and why.
Amplifying the stories that matter.
Quotes
“Anytime I got to do things like that, talk about this is how I used to think and now this is where I am and this is what I’m doing with my passion. It made me feel much more empowered because I knew I had a goal, rather than “oh I just changed my mind on something.”.”
“But I think once we give space for us to make those decisions and also permission to fail, it’s okay to fail and make the wrong decisions and work out how to get back on track. All of those things, we deserve to have in our lives.”
Dear Listeners it is now your turn,
If you had an opportunity to amplify a specific story from your life, that you know other people have experienced and would find great comfort and inspiration in, what would that story be?
And, as always, thank you for listening.
About Asha
Asha Dahya is a TEDx Speaker, author and producer with nearly 2 decades of experience creating content for major broadcast and digital platforms including FOX, ABC, MSN, and MTV. In 2020 Asha released her first book titled ‘Today’s Wonder Women: Everyday Superheroes Who Are Changing The World’ where she interviewed 50 women and girls from around the world.
Asha is also the Founder and Editor in Chief of GirlTalkHQ.Com: a daily female empowerment blog promoting women’s voices stories.
Passionate about the intersections of female representation, reproductive justice, and religion, Asha is currently in production on two documentary projects about abortion. You can see more of her work at AshaDahya.com.
Connect with Asha on her Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram!
And be sure to check out Asha’s website at Asha Dahya, Girl Talk, and her book Today’s Wonder Women! As well as the Ted Talk she was in!
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Interested in No Longer Virtual? Check out the details and register at elkinsconsulting.com/nlv-home
Be sure to check out the Job Interview Storytelling Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!
267 Everybody Needs a Coach
It’s normal to need help, we aren’t born knowing everything especially when it comes to ourselves. We are constantly changing and evolving, so turning to someone who specializes in one field to help you understand yourself better should be welcomed and sought out when we need guidance.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Annette Taylor discuss strengths and weaknesses as well as how best to maximize one's ability in any field they occupy as well as how to use even weaknesses to the advantage.
267 Everybody Needs a Coach
It’s normal to need help, we aren’t born knowing everything especially when it comes to ourselves. We are constantly changing and evolving, so turning to someone who specializes in one field to help you understand yourself better should be welcomed and sought out when we need guidance.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Annette Taylor discuss strengths and weaknesses as well as how best to maximize one's ability in any field they occupy as well as how to use even weaknesses to the advantage.
Highlights
Everyone needs help understanding and utilizing their strengths and weaknesses
Observe not Absorb
Leave room in conversations for the other person to participate, it’s a two way street.
Quotes
“I kind of pride myself on not being a perfectionist.”
“With the empathy, because I think I can be confusing sometimes, I might be seeing it from the other person’s view and then the person doesn’t know what my view is.”
About Annette from her LinkedIn
I am full-time mom who has re-entered the workforce on a part-time basis. I have worked in customer service, as a preschool teacher, an administrative assistant, and as a property inspector. I have a M.A. in Educational Psychology (emphasis in Early Childhood Education) and am comfortable in front of an audience. After 5 plus years of personal research, I put together a website about human behavior based on mix of biology and philosophy. Feel free to check it out! www.cavedwellerclub.com
Connect with Annette on her LinkedIn!
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Interested in No Longer Virtual? Check out the details and register at elkinsconsulting.com/nlv-home
Be sure to check out the Job Interview Storytelling Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!
Dear Listeners it is now your turn,
What assessments have you taken that have changed how you see yourself? And have assessments simply confirmed what you know about yourself? Have you taken it to the next step of understanding maybe where you're getting in your own way, at relationships, at home, and at work? I'd love to hear what you're doing with your assessments and what experiences you've had when you've had coaches to walk you through them. Comment on my blog post associated with this podcast at Elkins Consulting.
And, as always, thank you for listening.
266 Storytelling and the Science of Community
More often than not storytelling and science coincide with the importance of humanities success as a civilization and a species. Our inherent desires to know and be known, as well as to be loved and to love are often cited as where our civilization began.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and the accomplished scientist Jens Madsen discuss the importance of science and storytelling, and how the two more often than not go hand in hand to convey emotions and experiences to your audience.
266 Storytelling and the Science of Community
More often than not storytelling and science coincide with the importance of humanity’s success as a civilization and a species. Our inherent desires to know and be known, as well as to be loved and to love are often cited as where our civilization began.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and the accomplished scientist Jens Madsen discuss the importance of science and storytelling, and how the two more often than not go hand in hand to convey emotions and experiences to your audience.
Highlights
What purpose do music and other arts serve in your life? What lights you up?
Community in individuality. Comfort in the company of others who also feel like they don’t fit in.
Losing the attention of an audience, or vice versa, is not a sign of being a bad narrator or audience.
The importance of finding a place and people where you can safely discuss emotions and topics relating to them.
Quotes
“We’re humans, that’s what we are and we’re not that different.”
“I’m so affected by the emotional state of my surroundings, I just generally want everyone to be happy and feel good, how can I do that? One way of course is the story of how similar we are, or what it is that sort of somehow attracts our attention and what effects does that have on us?”
“This idea that we’re alone and we’re these people that are so different from everybody else, and like “I’m the only one having these thoughts and these feelings.” Like, no! We all have them, let’s just talk about it, this is totally fine to talk about.”
Dear Listeners it’s now your turn:
What story have you been telling that may have been creating a negative perception about you? And what stories can you share that will demonstrate the beauty of the people and the environment around you? What resources do you need to make sure that you are telling the right stories and listening to the music that will connect you with the people around you?
As always, thank you for listening!
About Jens
Jens works as a cognitive neuroscientist at the City College of New York where his work spans the intersection between cognitive psychology, neuroscience and artificial intelligence. Jens is originally from Denmark where he was trained in computer science and artificial intelligence, before he moved to New York City to pursue a career in neuroscience. Now he works on both developing techniques that measure attention when we engage with narratives (e.g. podcasts, movies or music) using neural, behavioral and physiological signals. Recently this work has led to investigating what it is in narratives that attracts our attention.
Connect with Jens on his Twitter and LinkedIn as well as his website at jensmadsen.com!
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Interested in No Longer Virtual? Check out the details and register at elkinsconsulting.com/nlv-home
Be sure to check out the Job Interview Storytelling Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!
265 Driving Change with Kari Gran
With the hustle and bustle of today’s culture it is easy to forget that we are all human with limitations and basic needs, which is why it is so important to remind yourself that it’s okay to take a moment for yourself when you need it.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Kari Gran discuss the importance of being gracious with yourself especially during times of change and healing.
265 Driving Change
With the hustle and bustle of today’s culture it is easy to forget that we are all human with limitations and basic needs, which is why it is so important to remind yourself that it’s okay to take a moment for yourself when you need it.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Kari Gran discuss the importance of being gracious with yourself especially during times of change and healing.
Highlights
Change will happen, will you drive it or let it drive you?
Listen to your body, schedule maintenance for yourself before your body schedules it for you.
Learn and understand your reactions to past experiences to make better future choices.
Quotes
“If I don’t listen to myself it’s going to be a problem.”
“It’s critical having the ability to pivot and be adaptable to the situation and really not getting too terribly attached to the outcome.”
About Kari
Starting a company from scratch in a fiercely competitive industry may not seem like an expected or safe mid-career pivot, but that is exactly what Kari Gran did.
At 29, Kari was diagnosed with Graves’ Disease and Hashimoto’s Disease. Both are autoimmune forms of thyroid disease. Because of this, Kari started looking into everything from what she ate to what she put on her face. This led her to begin formulating products that fit her skincare needs.
Her friend Lisa had the big idea to turn Kari’s products into a business, seeing a need for women that wasn’t really being met in a way that felt authentic or truth-telling. Or, plainly put, calling BS on the beauty industry. As co-owners, Kari formulates the line and oversees operations and Lisa’s the CEO and keeps the business humming along.
For 11 years, Kari Gran Skincare has been thriving in the world of clean skincare. The company is built around a small number of essential, oil-based products that they personally researched, developed, and tested.
Connect with Kari on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram! And be sure to check out her website at karigran.com!
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Interested in No Longer Virtual? Check out the details and register at elkinsconsulting.com/nlv-home
Be sure to check out the Job Interview Storytelling Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!
264 A Practical WOTY: Practice
When we are trying to make changes in ourselves and our daily lives, sometimes it can feel like we aren’t making progress despite seeing everyone else around us doing so. When we notice that we are comparing ourselves to others, it’s time to take a step back and reevaluate if our changes are being made in a way that benefits and leans into our skill sets.
In this episode Sarah Elkins explores the idea of Word Of The Year (WOTY) and how it’s a conscious choice to learn and grow, as well as how important it is to make sure that your WOTY is honed to your skillset as you work to better yourself.
264 A Practical WOTY: Practice
When we are trying to make changes in ourselves and our daily lives, sometimes it can feel like we aren’t making progress despite seeing everyone else around us doing so. When we notice that we are comparing ourselves to others, it’s time to take a step back and reevaluate if our changes are being made in a way that benefits and leans into our skill sets.
In this episode Sarah Elkins explores the idea of Word Of The Year (WOTY) and how it’s a conscious choice to learn and grow, as well as how important it is to make sure that your WOTY is honed to your skillset as you work to better yourself.
Highlights
Self reflection without discipline can become a damaging internal dialogue or deflection from personal responsibility.
It’s okay to not be as far into your progress as other people are, sometimes you need to approach things in a way that caters to your skillset.
Find what helps you most and is most useful to your specific skill set, growth is not one size fits all.
Quotes
“The realization that, yes indeed, I do have a word. That word is practice. If I’m going to do something, take on any kind of personal growth exercise, it has to be action oriented, highly practical and something I can sustain. It has to be approachable for me, within my capacity, and not something I have to fight to make work.”
“Practice. The word gave me a powerful shift in how I frame the activities of my days. Practice means humility, I know I can improve in everything I do, even the things I know I do really well.”
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Interested in No Longer Virtual? Check out the details and register at elkinsconsulting.com/nlv-home
Be sure to check out the Job Interview Storytelling Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!
263 Resilience Needs Community
It’s only human to think we can do everything by ourselves, we want to be independent and prove to ourselves that we can power through any trial. However at some point there will come something that we can’t do on our own and when we finally reach out we will find that our trials are easier to approach and handle with a community to support us.
In today’s episode Sarah Elkins and Amberly Lago discuss how unpredictable and tumultuous life can be and how important it is to reach out to those who are there to support us and to find strength and comfort in our community, instead of trying to do everything alone.
263 Resilience Needs Community
It’s only human to think we can do everything by ourselves, we want to be independent and prove to ourselves that we can power through any trial. However at some point there will come something that we can’t do on our own and when we finally reach out we will find that our trials are easier to approach and handle with a community to support us.
In today’s episode Sarah Elkins and Amberly Lago discuss how unpredictable and tumultuous life can be and how important it is to reach out to those who are there to support us and to find strength and comfort in our community, instead of trying to do everything alone.
Highlights
FLOW: Frequency, Love, Optimism, Wonder.
Resilience doesn't mean doing it all by yourself.
Grit and Community grows Resilience.
Quotes
“I lived for so long in that fight or flight and now I want to live in flow.”
“Your impact is only as big and strong as you are healthy.”
About Amberly
Amberly Lago is a Peak Performance Coach, TEDx Speaker, Podcaster, and a leading expert in
the field of resilience and transformation. She is the best-selling author of “True Grit and Grace”
and the founder of “UNSTOPPABLE Life Mastermind.”
Through her book, coaching methods, and masterminds she has curated unique tools to teach
others how to tap into their superpower of resilience and elevate their lives and businesses.
Amberly has most recently been featured on NBC’s The Today Show, The Doctors, Hallmark,
and featured in magazines such as Shape, Fit Pregnancy, Yahoo, Forbes, USA Today, LA Style,
Health Magazine, Keynote Speaker Magazine and Disability Magazine.
Connect with Amberly on her LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram! And be sure to check out her websites here at Amberly Lago and here at Unstoppable Life Mastermind!
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Interested in No Longer Virtual? Check out the details and register at elkinsconsulting.com/nlv-home
Be sure to check out the Job Interview Storytelling Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!
262 Strength In The Face Of Change
Change is inevitable, however it is how we view change that can be manipulated especially when it comes to ourselves. We are all constantly evolving with our strengths and skills, whether or not that evolution is to become the best version of ourselves is entirely up to us.
In today’s episode Sarah Elkins and Natalie Jobity discuss owning strengths and how they can shift and change over time, as well as how it is integral to seeing and appreciating every version of yourself.
262 Strength In The Face Of Change
Change is inevitable, however it is how we view change that can be manipulated especially when it comes to ourselves. We are all constantly evolving with our strengths and skills, whether or not that evolution is to become the best version of ourselves is entirely up to us.
In today’s episode Sarah Elkins and Natalie Jobity discuss owning strengths and how they can shift and change over time, as well as how it is integral to seeing and appreciating every version of yourself.
Highlights
What narrative do you still hold on to that someone else gave to you?
You have to challenge yourself because if you become complacent and accept your limitations you will never achieve the best version of yourself.
Be mindful of when people criticize you for your hardcore talents that make you good at what you do.
Quotes
“All of us are multi-gifted and multifaceted, we don’t have to box ourselves into “Well I can only be creative and do this” or “I can only be strategic and do that.”
“And I just went headfirst, believed in myself, I just- I look back and I’m like “What?!” What gave me the gall? What gave me the confidence, the bravado, all the words to think that I can build something from nothing. Like literally from nothing, and that’s what I did!”
“Looking back on my life and my careers and different things, “You have always been really savvy, you have always been ahead of things.” But I used to think of when I would explain things to people they wouldn’t understand me, and I thought that’s because I was stupid or I wasn’t that smart or I’m not communicating well, and now I see it as because you were always ahead and they didn’t know what you were thinking because they hadn’t caught up yet.”
About Natalie
Natalie Jobity is a Leadership Coach, Personal Brand Strategist, Author, and Speaker. She integrates her 25 years of marketing, image consulting, entrepreneurship and coaching expertise with her strategic prowess, creative ingenuity, intuitive sensibilities and her innate ability to spot potential to help women rise to their highest leadership echelons as the “Brilliance Unveiler.” Natalie brings an authentic, customized, intuitive approach as she helps purpose-driven women unveil their brilliance, so it becomes potent, powerful, and purposeful with ripple-making effects for years to come.
Natalie is the author of Amazon best-selling Frumpy to Fabulous: Flaunting It, and her newly published leadership empowerment book, It’s Your Time to Shine, Girl: Own Your Brilliance, Step into Your Influence, and Lead Like a Trailblazer. She wrote the latter to inspire women to bring their brand of brilliance to the fore so they can lead like the trailblazer, game-changer, and changemaker they are meant to be and to give them the tips, tools, and techniques needed to succeed and thrive as women of influence.
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Interested in No Longer Virtual? Check out the details and register at elkinsconsulting.com/nlv-home
Be sure to check out the Job Interview Storytelling Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!